The Problem With Genderless Parenting

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...Witterick and Stocker said they believe "it's obnoxious" that "parents make so many choices for their children."

But nothing could be further from the truth!

In fact, the politically correct trend sweeping the U.S., and evidently Canada, is setting child-rearing on its head. Instead of teaching our kids right from wrong and the traditions and wisdom we have inherited from our forbears, parents are more and more letting their children make all their own choices --choices outside of any moral or practical context.

I'm sorry, but expecting a toddler to figure out what's best for him (or her) is absolute madness. And it's tragic. No wonder kids are confused! There's no one to teach them now to grow up and flourish in the world; how to measure their wnats against what is actually good for them; and how to choose to do the right thing over simply indulging in their every desire.

But this is where the tyranny of relativism has led us. If there is no such thing as Truth, if right and wrong are up to the individual, then of course personal choice becomes the highest good: Even if the choice theatens our spiritual, physical, adn moral well-being.

You've heard me say many times that God has written His law on our hearts. We know instinctively that gender is part of our God-given, biological design. And we should realize that when we try to deny or suppress or alter that essential part of our being, it's not good for us-- and especially not good for our children.

I'm not saying that all members of the same gender should be made to think and act the same way. What I am saying is this: Efforts to transcend or ignore gender are destined to be fruitless at best, harmful at worst.

A culture that tries to do this ends up far more rigid and judgmental than the culture it's trying to reform. And tragically, its children often end up feeling far worse about themselves than children who are taught to embrace God's design and purpose for their lives.

-By: Chuck Colson, christianpost.com

Decrease Increase Teen curfews: Protect teens, curb crime, or just peace of mind?

Summer months are here and school is out, leaving many a teen with time on their hands.

To some city and law enforcement officials, that poses a problem.

The City of Atlanta recently announced its intention to enforce a longstanding teen curfew ordinance, lest kids 16 and younger roam the streets in the wee hours. Under the ordinance, anyone younger than 17 can't be outside their homes without adult supervision from 11 p.m. to 6 a.m. Sunday through Thursday, and from midnight to 6 a.m. on Fridays and Saturdays. Many cities and counties across metro Atlanta have similar regulations.

Proponents say the laws reduce teen crime and protect teens from danger, while critics believe the rules do little more than give a false sense of security to nervous adults.

"There's pretty much no question that [the ordinances] aren't effective in either reducing crime or preventing harm to young people," said Mike Males, a senior researcher for the Center on Juvenile and Criminal Justice, who has researched the effectiveness of teen curfews in cities across the U.S.

"It's basically designed to make people feel better about using a city at night, and it's an artificial thing," he said. "It’s a psychological law -- not an effective policy."

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By Katie Leslie , The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

Teaching Teens to Refuse Alcohol

Recently I read an article about a new trend in America—parents allowing their teens to drink at home. Apparently, the idea behind this is that drinking in the home setting will demystify alcohol and help the young people learn to drink responsibly.

Before I tell you what I think about that trend, let me share this fact with you. 11% of the alcohol consumed in the United States is consumed by underage kids. That’s a staggering statistic. Alcohol abuse among teens is becoming an enormous problem in America.

With that in mind, here is my comment on parents letting or even encouraging their teenagers to drink at home. With all the kindness and Christian charity this Texan can muster I ask these parents: Are you nuts? If you follow that same line of thinking, then you’ll also allow them to have sex at home, take drugs at home, lie and cheat at home. That’s just crazy!

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By: Mark Gregston, www.blogs.christianpost.com

General Assembly Takes Aim At Cyberbullying and Teen Violence

There are three bills before the General Assembly that address issues associated with teen dating and associated violence.

HB 6629 would allow teens to secure a restraining order against an abusive teen dating partner. HB 6053 would revise the state's bullying law to include teen dating violence. And SB 1138 targets cyberbullying. The three proposed bills should get a floor vote in the coming weeks.

"The whole idea here is how teens can protect themselves through the legal system," said Bob Kocienda, chair of the Norwalk-based Center for Youth Leadership.

HB 6629 wouljd allow teens experiencing constant threat of present physical pain or physical injury, a pattern of verbal intimidation, threatening or stalking by family or someone in, or recently in, a dating relationship, to apply for a restraining order "regardless of the age of such persons."

Only two other states, Rhode Island and California, allow teens to get restraining orders against other teens.

Under the bill, police much inform victims of abuse about options, including restraining orders and where to find domestic violence help. The Judiciary Committee unanimously passed teh bill out of committee.

"Anything that strengthens anti-bullying efforts is very positive," said Dani Gorman, head of the Youth Services Bureau in Waterford. "A lot of young people struggle with healthy and unhealthy relationships."
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By: Jessie King and Catheryn J. Prince, http://waterford.patch.com

Does Drinking With Parents Help Teens Drink More Responsibly? Not Really

When I was in high school, my parents laid down a few ground rules about exactly how “liberating” my teenage emancipation was going to be. No driving without an adult in the car past dark, no staying out past 11 p.m., and no, absolutely no, drinking.

Well, it turns out Mom and Dad were on to something (don't you hate it when that happens?). A new study by researchers at the University of Minnesota found that teens who drink under their parents' supervision — the occasional sip at dinner or during holidays — are more likely to become problem drinkers a few years later than those whose parents, like mine, adopted a zero-tolerance policy.

When it comes to underage drinking, there are two schools of thought. Some are convinced that teens are too young and inexperienced to handle alcohol, and not ready to make decisions about how much is too much or how to drink responsibly.

Then there are those who point to cultures where alcohol isn't so taboo for adolescents, where adults allow their children to drink a little in their presence, and where alcoholism rates are no different from those in countries where underage drinking is illegal. By incorporating alcohol into youngsters' lives from an early age, and not making it a forbidden fruit, they argue, teens are less likely to abuse it as adults.

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By: Alice Park, www.healthland.time.com

Teens Warn of Underage Drinking

With prom and graduation just around the corner, St. Charles high school students and police hit the streets to spread teh message that providing alcohol to minors is illegal. The effort was the St. Charles Police Department's first year of Project Sticker Shock, a program of the Illinois Liquor Control Commission. April is Alcohol Awareness Month.

"I definitely feel there's a lot of underage drinking going on, especially around prom, and there's a stigma out there that the only way you can have fun is by drinking," said St. Charles North senior Buddy Haas. "So if you cut it off at the source, that can hep solve the problem."

Officers and students from both St. Charles North and East high schools aimed to stop last week at the 89 businesses with liquor licenses and provide them with signs and stickers warning cutomers that it's illegal to buy alcohol for someone under 21 and to use a fake ID.

"We're not delivering or sending people a message they haven't heard, but because it's a problem that persists and grows, we need to keep sending the message," Comander Jerry Gatlin said. While he said he doesn't believe underage drinking is more of a problem in St. Charles than otehr communities, he said nationwide it "is in a sense an epidenic and it has been for years. If one kid is out there drinking and drinking too much, it's one kid too many," he said.

In 2009, an 18-year-old was killed when the vehicle he was riding in struck two trees at a high rate of speed along Royal Fox Drive in St. Charles. The driver, also 18, allegedly had a blood-alcohol level almost three times the legal limit and later pleaded guilty to aggravated drunken driving and reckless homicide charges.

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Moms Talk Q&A: Teen Dating Dilemmas

It's time to grab a cup of coffee and settle in as we start the conversation with this week's issue:

Today we're taking a look at an age-old topic: Teen dating. With middle school dances, Facebook flirting (being in a "relationship" is just a click away, and so is "poking" a friend) and everything else that makes connecting with a crush super-easy in our fast-paced world, is it possible to stick to a set age for your child's entrance into the dating world? According to a Dr. Phil message board, many parents still believe 16 is the right year to allow a first date, and even then, many encourage group outings. We found these tips for talking to your child about the subject, and now we're hoping you'll add your own advice.

The question: Is there a perfect age to allow your child to start dating?

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By: Beth Blanck, southeast.patch.com