Parents and Teens: What Do They Need to Know?

The reality of life in some areas of the U.S. are dire. Many have lost jobs, homes, and the basic security that those things bring.

Parents find themselves not sure what to tell their teen. If you are in that situation, I encourage you to read "Need to Know Basis Applies to Your Kids" by Dr. Benjamin Garber, Healthy Parent.

Here is an exerpt:

As parents, we're our children's emotional anchors. We create the foundation upon which they slowly build self. Anything that shakes that foundation – from financial hardship to substance abuse, from co-parental conflict to serious illness – resonates through them.

Denying the reality can make the problem worse. The mom who reassures "Everything's fine, sweetie" through her tears or the dad who stomps away from the dinner table without any explanation then or later only adds confusion to the child's already stirred-up emotions.

This isn't reassuring, this is lying in the face of obvious changes. As a result, our kids will draw their own conclusions, too often blaming themselves, exaggerating the situation and assuming the worst.

I'm telling him what I believe he can understand. Good. Do this by figuring out what your kids are thinking and feeling.